why do us human come up with these ideas of past life, next life, karma, reincarnation, fate, destiny and such
to try to explain coincidence and circumstances beyond our control?
looking it up on internet and Wiki says fate is circumstances above your control that brought you to your current states while what you choose and do now would affect your destiny which is a future state of yours
the above is brought about in western definition
while Asian come up with more elaborated connection between past, present and future accordingly to your deeds and your interconnection with another beings
Asia pretty much put the concept into a context with communities and people surrounding them
In many Asian language, there are vocabularies to describe fateful encounter and destined rendervous which are the results of our deeds and interconnection with the others in our previous lives
who knows, we might keep reuniting and getting involved with the same souls for thousands and thousands of years, thousands and thousands of life circles, building a vicious circle with our karma ?
i am not sure i believe in it but it keeps entering my thoughts all day
day dream about souls that have kept me accompanied throughout these times
whether or not it does exist at all
and if fate does exist at all to what extent they affect our life course?
since it is our deeds and our decision and our choice in the end, it is only logical to say we can alter our destiny, right?
but then modern life helps us to widen our circles of connection through the advance of technology, with airplanes, ships, we travel much farther and with internet and phone, we keep the connection longer and deeper?
will all those affect our fate and destiny? with more souls involved and connected?
lol no one knows for certain
and why these ideas of fate and destiny obsesses us so much? we romanticize them in all our media, movie, music, books, arts just to make us idealize love and the connection we share with our soulmates
while they are all great inspiration and sources of strength in our mundane reality, sometimes they are misleading and blinding us as we tend to forget that it is not only fate but our choices are involved. that we have to make efforts, refining ourselves and earning our love during our whole lifetime
it is definitely an ongoing process and a reciprocal one
because relationship is fragile and we are always not confident about the love we share in face of the unknown and hardships
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recently I came across another beautiful passages on how our psychology works when we face obstacles in relationships: frustration, hurt and sulking; all are inevitable components just as happiness and satisfaction in love
Sulking pays homage to a beautiful, dangerous ideal that can be traced back to our earliest childhoods: the promise of wordless understanding. In the womb, we never had to explain. Our every requirement was catered to. The right sort of comfort simply happened. Some of this idyll continued in our first years. We didn’t have to make our every requirement known: large, kind people guessed for us. They saw past our tears, our inarticulacy, our confusions: they found the explanations for discomforts which we lacked the ability to verbalize.That may be why, in relationships, even the most eloquent among us may instinctively prefer not to spell things out when our partners are at risk of failing to read us properly. Only wordless and accurate mind reading can feel like a true sign that our partner is someone to be trusted; only when we don’t have to explain can we feel certain that we are genuinely understood.
It is astonishing that despite our great differences in culture, upbringing background, races, nationalities, we all share this expectation of a wordless understanding from our partners when it comes to love, sharing a soulmate connection and such
It is true this idea, just the same as fate and destiny, is dangerous and beautiful at the same time
except that it may be built more concretely by a habit we harbor since our infantry
as it tends to make us forget the role of our efforts, our behaviors and our responsibility in retaining the balance of the relationships we have as to not to hurt our partners unnecessarily and not to demand them too unreasonably of tasks and emotions that we might not even be capable ourselves
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this idea that wordless understanding and it might-be logical roots in our infantry actually touches me deeply as it reminds me of the intimacy of mother love
maybe the maternal instincts in me just make me feel that way, that no soulmate connection is greater than the bonds shared by parent-child... the child and the immature human in us never truly know how to appreciate this enormous love and sacrifice unless one becomes a mother, father his/herself
it may not be the case with all but i believe all dedicating parents possess such infinite capacity of patience, care and love when bearing and bringing up a child
what is more fated than becoming a child of your parent? if this utterly uncontrollable natural forces cant be label as fate, than what else can be?
and this must be promise before time, to care and protect another being in the most selfless way
listening to this song while pondering about love and a promise before time
The world I know fades away But you stay.
As the earth reclaims its due And the cycle starts anew We'll stay, always In the love that we have shared before time If the years take away Every memory that I have I would know the way That would lead me back to your side
